First Impressions... Do They Really Last?

Just another random question that found its way out of the crazy pile of question my brain has. So as the title says/states, do first impressions really last?
There goes the saying that first impressions lasts. This might be the reason why girls take time to fix themselves up. They might bump in to some cute guys and they want to leave an impression of being poised, beautiful, sexy, cute, and many other more positive, confidence boosting comments. Guys, on the other hand, also fix themselves up nowadays, and probably for the same reason girls fix themselves up.
From my point of view, I don't think first impressions last. Yes, they do matter but they don't really last. It's like giving a person a very old cassette tape with a lot of great songs inside. The person will have second thoughts about accepting this "antique" gift because it's not presentable enough. The first impression strikes again.
I had experiences of the deceiving first impressions and through time they had changed. I studied in an all girls school. Almost everybody are girls - the teachers, students, sisters, staff and even guards!. (exemptions would include some other staff and some guards.) The first time I had a male teacher was during my first year of high school. Oh yes... I had some weird feeling during his class. At first, I thought that he was boring, but no, I was wrong - very wrong. He was the total opposite of what I have thought he was in the first place. To cut things short, he was fun, and I had never thought that he was boring ever again.
Some of the feedbacks I had on the first impressions my friends had on me were quiet, snobbish, mean, etc. Ha! I'm not even an inch, no, a centimeter near what they were judging me to be. Of course, these impression all changed. We became great friends, and we still are.

Do first impressions last? I don't know for you. All I know is that in my case, they don't.

Triggering Gossips

Gossips. Rumors. Stories. These things are not always true but they still spread fast like fire spreading in a forest. Also like fire, it burns, hurts and destroys. Everything begins somewhere. There's this 'detonator' that triggers a certain event or happening to take place. A forest fire can be started by a single matchstick, a poorly-extinguished cigarette or a stormy weather, but where do gossips start? Why do they even start? The stories all start by a single question - a simple question in fact. 'What happened?'. No. 'When did it happen?'. Definitely not. 'Why did it happen?'. Getting colder. Sure, these questions are commonly asked when you want to hear the "juicy" parts of the story, but they're not the answer. The simple question I was talking about is 'Who'.

Who. A little word but makes a big impact; a short word but creates a long effect. Why who? It is because it involves persons, it revolves around persons. People don't gossip about animals. They don't gossip about a dog and cat loving each other or about a bird falling off a tree. They talk about people - other people to be exact. These persons are, in some way or another, related to the person asking. This little question can change a person's point of view completely. After hearing the story, the person is not going to have the same impression or relation with the person involved in the "inside scoop". (note: I will be calling the victim of the gossip as "The One") Since the odds are against "The One", he is in the danger zone of being labeled and being isolated.

It doesn't make sense. Why make a great fuss over a person who accidentally peed in his pants during high school? Why make a big fuss over a beautiful girl dating a nerdy guy, or vice versa? Why make a great fuss over a straight 'A' student failing a test? It is fine to talk about what had happened. I can't blame a person for being curious - it's a gift from the heavens, but after hearing the story, please don't take it to heart. Don't make the rumors a basis for "The One’s" personality or dignity. It's just not fair. It's not his/her fault to commit a mistake; we all make mistakes. It's not his/her fault to like another being; we all have the right to make decisions. It's not his/her fault to break down once in a while; we all do.

These gossips are usually spread by girls (I'm sure some boys also spread rumors). Being a girl myself, I don't exempt myself from gossiping. I have helped spread rumors before but I am trying to help stop rumors now, or so I think. Before spreading "the word", think about it.

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It's Alive!!!

I guess this blog is up. ^^; I still need to do some tweaking and some editting. ^^ This is the blog for now.

The blogging starts at July 10, 2006. ^-^ (ahaha.. it's like a trailer of some movie.)